There are so many times when I too want to say:
"That was outloud...did you know that?"
Roy Zimmerman - "Jerry Fallwell's God"
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Friday, September 26, 2008
Saturday, July 05, 2008
A post by request
It was requested today that I post to give an update on what is going on here. Well, everyone is doing fine. I just finished catching up on all the blogs that have been written by the kids for the past two weeks. They are all posted on the Family Website. It is nice to be caught up.
I still need to get some posting done with pictures of Andrew's visit. That will be fun. Life has a funny way of taking over though and making it difficult to write about what is happening...
I still need to get some posting done with pictures of Andrew's visit. That will be fun. Life has a funny way of taking over though and making it difficult to write about what is happening...
Friday, June 06, 2008
I am a Prophetess!!
Last night I said that I was sure something would come up with my best friend's ex regarding her trip. Sure enough it did! Quite literally actually!!
Her attorney emailed this morning that both the ex and my friend's son have the stomach flu. Apparently it is a sneaky spontaneous flu that strikes two people at EXACTLY the same time right before they are scheduled to travel for visitation, evaluation and her psychological testing (that has already been re-scheduled three times). It is going around you know.
Oh, and a little later we heard that it is a 4-7 day flu. What an amazing coincidence. Of course there were no signs at all that she was coming down with anything last night when she was going to an Open House and needed confirmation of the visitation schedule "no later than"...
I don't think I will ever forget the look on the kids faces when they heard that their brother wouldn't be here tonight after all. Chris was at work and they kept making plans for his arrival. I couldn't let them keep doing that. They just had to know.
I told them simply that their mother said she and their brother were sick and so they wouldn't be coming after all. They were devastated, absolutely devatated.
Her attorney emailed this morning that both the ex and my friend's son have the stomach flu. Apparently it is a sneaky spontaneous flu that strikes two people at EXACTLY the same time right before they are scheduled to travel for visitation, evaluation and her psychological testing (that has already been re-scheduled three times). It is going around you know.
Oh, and a little later we heard that it is a 4-7 day flu. What an amazing coincidence. Of course there were no signs at all that she was coming down with anything last night when she was going to an Open House and needed confirmation of the visitation schedule "no later than"...
I don't think I will ever forget the look on the kids faces when they heard that their brother wouldn't be here tonight after all. Chris was at work and they kept making plans for his arrival. I couldn't let them keep doing that. They just had to know.
I told them simply that their mother said she and their brother were sick and so they wouldn't be coming after all. They were devastated, absolutely devatated.
Another Surreal Moment
My best friend’s ex-wife really out-does herself over and over and over again. The gaps in her “thinking” are amazing. Just a little while ago he got an email requiring scheduling arrangements be made for his ex’s visit this weekend. She demanded an email “no later than” a certain time because she was leaving for the airport and declaring that he was NOT to call her but HAD to respond by email.
If my best friend had been refusing to respond to her attempts to arrange time that would be one thing, but he INITIATED the email exchange to set up the times and exchange locations. If you only read her email you would have a very distorted picture of the whole situation. For instance you might get the idea that he has been harassing her with phone calls. He hasn’t called at all!!
Something I’m sure will come up at the last second. It always does. And we’ll deal with it the best we can…like always.
If my best friend had been refusing to respond to her attempts to arrange time that would be one thing, but he INITIATED the email exchange to set up the times and exchange locations. If you only read her email you would have a very distorted picture of the whole situation. For instance you might get the idea that he has been harassing her with phone calls. He hasn’t called at all!!
Something I’m sure will come up at the last second. It always does. And we’ll deal with it the best we can…like always.
Thursday, June 05, 2008
Frustrations...
If you had an attorney, would you fire him, go pro-se and then get pissed off when you were contacted about a routine scheduling?
Well, that is what my ex did.
I don’t understand that mentality. Why would you get that upset about a situation you created for yourself in the first place? I don’t get it.
But then again it was because I got tired of all his crazy making behavior (and I got tired of walking on eggshells so I wouldn’t get my head bit off for the simplest thing) that I left him in the first place. Well, that and some of the things my son was saying. I just couldn’t pretend anymore.
It is just bizarre.
Well, that is what my ex did.
I don’t understand that mentality. Why would you get that upset about a situation you created for yourself in the first place? I don’t get it.
But then again it was because I got tired of all his crazy making behavior (and I got tired of walking on eggshells so I wouldn’t get my head bit off for the simplest thing) that I left him in the first place. Well, that and some of the things my son was saying. I just couldn’t pretend anymore.
It is just bizarre.
Monday, June 02, 2008
Birthdays
I have a very weird “relationship” with my birthday. Most of my history with it is not the best. Last year I tried something completely different. I didn’t mention it to anyone. My birthday came and went without the slightest notice to me from anyone in the world. It was odd but kind of nice. No expectations, nothing. Just another day.
This year I approached my birthday the same way. No expectations. As it turned out, my best friend took me out to dinner. It was nice too! :D
As a corollary, I was raised that holidays (including birthdays) were a really BIG deal! That the day itself was important and had to be perfect! I much prefer my current approach. Absolutely celebrate holidays, but in a way that works. If it doesn’t work to celebrate on “the day” then pick another one and go with the flow!
Very revolutionary I know but it is SO much less stress!!
Perspective – I love it!
This year I approached my birthday the same way. No expectations. As it turned out, my best friend took me out to dinner. It was nice too! :D
As a corollary, I was raised that holidays (including birthdays) were a really BIG deal! That the day itself was important and had to be perfect! I much prefer my current approach. Absolutely celebrate holidays, but in a way that works. If it doesn’t work to celebrate on “the day” then pick another one and go with the flow!
Very revolutionary I know but it is SO much less stress!!
Perspective – I love it!
Sunday, June 01, 2008
Holy Cow!!
I can’t believe what just happened! In order to understand what happened though some background might be helpful.
I live with my best friend and four of his five children. His other son lives with his ex. My son lives here too. Both my ex and my best friend’s ex live in CA about an hour away from each other.
I just finished a custody evaluation regarding my son and the divorce is final but not much else. The evaluator decided that residential custody would stay with me and that my ex would have visitation. My best friend is also in the middle of an evaluation.
Part of the contact my son has with his adopted father in CA is via phone every day. My ex either calls or my son calls. Either way if I EVER hear my son being rude or speaking inappropriately while on the phone I have always corrected him. The exact same thing is true if I EVER hear him speaking to ANY adult rudely or inappropriately.
None of the children here are allowed to speak rudely to or about adults, let alone their parents.
My best friend’s ex had actively denied visitation of his son in CA for nearly a year. He finally saw his son for a few hours a couple of weeks ago because of the evaluation (his ex HAD to bring his son here) which has arisen from his motions for a) more parenting time and b) enforcement of current parenting time.
One of the responding claims of my best friend’s ex is that he and I are poisoning the children against her. She has no idea that the EXACT OPPOSITE is true. Both my best friend and I work hard to help the children here have a good relationships with our ex spouses. We encourage healthy, respectful relationships with their parents. You’d think that if she was claiming we were poisoning the children that she would make sure she had “clean hands”. She doesn’t and that is where the “holy cow” comes in.
During my best friend’s recent visit with his son I was around, took pictures of them together and even played with both of them some times. We had a good time!
Recently, my friend’s son has called more (with help from mom) and also on his own! He and I have also had occasion to be on the phone with one another. When I am passing the phone to someone else, when he calls and no one else is here but me, etc. We have had some fun conversations! He has even asked to speak to me quite a bit, even right after returning from his trip here.
However within the past four days something interesting has happened. There have been a few more phone calls than usual. I answer the phone and I hear something like, “Hello? Who is this?” When I identify myself I then hear something like, “Get off the phone!!! You’re nasty!! You’re a nasty, nasty!!”
This is not an isolated event and I just remind him that he can ask politely for who he would like and then I give the phone to them. However, tonight what COMPLETELY FLOORED me was that while I answered the phone while my friend was temporarily unavailable (the call had been disconnected and his son called back) he did the same thing. I told him to just wait for a minute and I clearly heard his mom in the background telling him to ask for other people. He kept calling me names and speaking beyond rudely. She obviously heard it and did NOTHING!!! There was no correction of ANY kind!
I couldn’t BELIEVE it!!! She is claiming that we (specifically I) am a horrible “evil” person and yet she lets (and it sounds like encourages) him to talk that way to me and about me. There is no reasonable way that he would go from asking to talk to me one phone call to calling me “nasty, nasty!” and ordering me off the phone on the next without “help” from other people.
My jaw is still on the floor that he was allowed to speak that way to any adult.
I live with my best friend and four of his five children. His other son lives with his ex. My son lives here too. Both my ex and my best friend’s ex live in CA about an hour away from each other.
I just finished a custody evaluation regarding my son and the divorce is final but not much else. The evaluator decided that residential custody would stay with me and that my ex would have visitation. My best friend is also in the middle of an evaluation.
Part of the contact my son has with his adopted father in CA is via phone every day. My ex either calls or my son calls. Either way if I EVER hear my son being rude or speaking inappropriately while on the phone I have always corrected him. The exact same thing is true if I EVER hear him speaking to ANY adult rudely or inappropriately.
None of the children here are allowed to speak rudely to or about adults, let alone their parents.
My best friend’s ex had actively denied visitation of his son in CA for nearly a year. He finally saw his son for a few hours a couple of weeks ago because of the evaluation (his ex HAD to bring his son here) which has arisen from his motions for a) more parenting time and b) enforcement of current parenting time.
One of the responding claims of my best friend’s ex is that he and I are poisoning the children against her. She has no idea that the EXACT OPPOSITE is true. Both my best friend and I work hard to help the children here have a good relationships with our ex spouses. We encourage healthy, respectful relationships with their parents. You’d think that if she was claiming we were poisoning the children that she would make sure she had “clean hands”. She doesn’t and that is where the “holy cow” comes in.
During my best friend’s recent visit with his son I was around, took pictures of them together and even played with both of them some times. We had a good time!
Recently, my friend’s son has called more (with help from mom) and also on his own! He and I have also had occasion to be on the phone with one another. When I am passing the phone to someone else, when he calls and no one else is here but me, etc. We have had some fun conversations! He has even asked to speak to me quite a bit, even right after returning from his trip here.
However within the past four days something interesting has happened. There have been a few more phone calls than usual. I answer the phone and I hear something like, “Hello? Who is this?” When I identify myself I then hear something like, “Get off the phone!!! You’re nasty!! You’re a nasty, nasty!!”
This is not an isolated event and I just remind him that he can ask politely for who he would like and then I give the phone to them. However, tonight what COMPLETELY FLOORED me was that while I answered the phone while my friend was temporarily unavailable (the call had been disconnected and his son called back) he did the same thing. I told him to just wait for a minute and I clearly heard his mom in the background telling him to ask for other people. He kept calling me names and speaking beyond rudely. She obviously heard it and did NOTHING!!! There was no correction of ANY kind!
I couldn’t BELIEVE it!!! She is claiming that we (specifically I) am a horrible “evil” person and yet she lets (and it sounds like encourages) him to talk that way to me and about me. There is no reasonable way that he would go from asking to talk to me one phone call to calling me “nasty, nasty!” and ordering me off the phone on the next without “help” from other people.
My jaw is still on the floor that he was allowed to speak that way to any adult.
Friday, May 16, 2008
Shopping - Jennifer/Mom
Time to go shopping for the party tonight...I will blog again when we get back to report what we will be having/doing for our party!
WKRP
We found that “WKRP in Cincinnati” is on hulu. This is such a cool find. It was said that WKRP would never be available outside of re-runs because of how much music they played on the show.
Apparently someone got around that problem.
“As God as my witness….I thought turkeys could fly” – Mr. Carlson
Apparently someone got around that problem.
“As God as my witness….I thought turkeys could fly” – Mr. Carlson
Lunchtime
At or around noon I always think of Jacob saying, “What should we do for lunch?” It doesn’t matter if we finished breakfast 4 hours or 10 minutes previously. The clock says 12 and Jacob asks. It is funny. If I remind him that he just ate he responds with, “Oh yeah, you’re right.” Usually that is followed by, “Well then, what should we do for dinner?”
So, it’s noon…
…”What should we do for lunch?”
So, it’s noon…
…”What should we do for lunch?”
Things that make you go hmmmm.....
I have found myself thinking a lot this morning about medicine. Specifically pharmaceuticals.
Throughout my life I have had varying relationships to them. For instance, there was a time when I didn’t (wouldn’t) even take over the counter pain killers when I had a migraine that was so bad I couldn’t function. I was very “granola” at the time and into “natural remedies”. So, I used those methods to address what was happening.
However, what I found incredible was that at the same time I was with my now “ex” and he (as a pediatric osteopath) would spend his days and nights telling other people to solve their medical problems with herbs and essential oils. He even “prescribed” the oils and nutritional products and had his patients “sign up” to buy them “under him”. (For all I know he still does that.)
Anyway, what would really get me was that if HE ever had any pain or whatever he would have me get him OTC pain meds. He even wrote a prescription for me and had me fill it when it was really for himself. Incredible!
It really stuck in my craw though was when his patients would come up to me and ask me how we lived on this really weird diet that he recommends to almost all of them. (Mucusless Diet) It is vegetarian and on this diet you can have no milk products at all. My ex would tell them that he ate this way and it really was good.
After lots of attempts to dodge the question because we absolutely didn’t live the “mucusless diet life” (my ex lived on cheese and milk products) I couldn’t take the hypocrisy of the situation and would laugh when the patients would ask me about it. I would then go on to tell them about the half-gallon of Bryers ice cream that was in the freezer, the cheese in the fridge and the other “violations” that were in the house. I would concede that I tried to cook healthy but that it was really hard and they needed to give themselves a break.
I am so glad I don’t have to deal with that anymore!
Throughout my life I have had varying relationships to them. For instance, there was a time when I didn’t (wouldn’t) even take over the counter pain killers when I had a migraine that was so bad I couldn’t function. I was very “granola” at the time and into “natural remedies”. So, I used those methods to address what was happening.
However, what I found incredible was that at the same time I was with my now “ex” and he (as a pediatric osteopath) would spend his days and nights telling other people to solve their medical problems with herbs and essential oils. He even “prescribed” the oils and nutritional products and had his patients “sign up” to buy them “under him”. (For all I know he still does that.)
Anyway, what would really get me was that if HE ever had any pain or whatever he would have me get him OTC pain meds. He even wrote a prescription for me and had me fill it when it was really for himself. Incredible!
It really stuck in my craw though was when his patients would come up to me and ask me how we lived on this really weird diet that he recommends to almost all of them. (Mucusless Diet) It is vegetarian and on this diet you can have no milk products at all. My ex would tell them that he ate this way and it really was good.
After lots of attempts to dodge the question because we absolutely didn’t live the “mucusless diet life” (my ex lived on cheese and milk products) I couldn’t take the hypocrisy of the situation and would laugh when the patients would ask me about it. I would then go on to tell them about the half-gallon of Bryers ice cream that was in the freezer, the cheese in the fridge and the other “violations” that were in the house. I would concede that I tried to cook healthy but that it was really hard and they needed to give themselves a break.
I am so glad I don’t have to deal with that anymore!
Early morning collections calls...
...Grrrrrrr!!!!!!
What makes it even worse is that it is someone asking for my best friend's Ex-wife! They are calling more and more lately. They are even leaving messages at his parents house! Why are we getting collections calls for her here? They have been divorced for 5 years!
It is getting ridiculous. I finally get a chance for a cat nap and it gets interrupted by a phone call from someone asking for someone who hasn't even lived in the state for over 7 years!
Enough is enough!
What makes it even worse is that it is someone asking for my best friend's Ex-wife! They are calling more and more lately. They are even leaving messages at his parents house! Why are we getting collections calls for her here? They have been divorced for 5 years!
It is getting ridiculous. I finally get a chance for a cat nap and it gets interrupted by a phone call from someone asking for someone who hasn't even lived in the state for over 7 years!
Enough is enough!
Showers!
I am so glad that I live in the time of indoor plumbing!
I have always thought it would be kind of cool in someways to live as a noble in England or something in the 17th century or some similar time and place. Long dresses have always appealed to me although I haven't had very many in my life.
Still, one of the very biggest drawbacks would be the lack of indoor plumbing and laundry. I wouldn't want to live without it!
Well time to go enjoy one of the MANY benefits of being alive TODAY!
I have always thought it would be kind of cool in someways to live as a noble in England or something in the 17th century or some similar time and place. Long dresses have always appealed to me although I haven't had very many in my life.
Still, one of the very biggest drawbacks would be the lack of indoor plumbing and laundry. I wouldn't want to live without it!
Well time to go enjoy one of the MANY benefits of being alive TODAY!
Mr. Deity (Season 2 - Episode 9)
This is out of order in posting because I was trying to go in episode order but I can't resist posting it RIGHT NOW! It is my favorite Mr. Deity and it is so appropo at this point. LOL!
"Mr. Deity and the Help Meet"
"Mr. Deity and the Help Meet"
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Getting the kids off...
Well, it is just about time to get the kids up and so they can get ready for school. Funny how we keep going and do what needs to be done, even when we are so tired we can hardly see straight.
Same routine every morning. I wonder if there will ever be a time when they don't need one of us up to keep them going. hmmmmm....
What a pleasant thought that is. Someday....
Same routine every morning. I wonder if there will ever be a time when they don't need one of us up to keep them going. hmmmmm....
What a pleasant thought that is. Someday....
Mawwage...
"Mawwage is what bwings us twogevow today!"
Ok, "Princess Bride" is one of the best movies of all time! I can't believe that anyone doesn't like that movie. I guess I should have paid more attention when I was engaged to my "ex" and he said he didn't like it and didn't get it.
It was a sign! (...except I don't really believe in those anymore damnit!)
Anyway, our topic this hour is marriage.
I was sold a bill of goods my whole life that "eternal marriage" was the only "real" marriage and the only kind of marriage worth ANYTHING. At this point all I have to say about that is BULL-SHIT!
I was taught that the Spirit would guide me to the right man if I just listened to the whisperings. Well, I have had two "eternal marriages" now that weren't so "eternal" after all. I was seeking for a partner and a friend in each one that I could spend "eternity" with loving and caring for one another. Instead in each I found that I was praying and living for eternity to "make everything better" because what I was living wasn't very sweet.
I was told to "have faith" and that I needed to keep my "eye on the prize" and "endure to the end" and I would be blessed. Well, I came to a realization. I didn't want to be miserable in this life with the "promise" that everything would turn around and be better in the next. I didn't want to be the "good little suffering soldier" any longer. Also, I didn't really believe that someone could spend a lifetime being one way and then if I were faithful enough that person would "spontaneously change" and things would be blissful for all eternity.
Ironically, it was when I rejected marriage that I found the exact kind of relationship that I have always been looking for. If there is an eternity, I believe it will be a lot like what I create here and now.
It is so much nicer spending my time with my best friend instead of someone who I wished would be at least friendly to me.
Ok, "Princess Bride" is one of the best movies of all time! I can't believe that anyone doesn't like that movie. I guess I should have paid more attention when I was engaged to my "ex" and he said he didn't like it and didn't get it.
It was a sign! (...except I don't really believe in those anymore damnit!)
Anyway, our topic this hour is marriage.
I was sold a bill of goods my whole life that "eternal marriage" was the only "real" marriage and the only kind of marriage worth ANYTHING. At this point all I have to say about that is BULL-SHIT!
I was taught that the Spirit would guide me to the right man if I just listened to the whisperings. Well, I have had two "eternal marriages" now that weren't so "eternal" after all. I was seeking for a partner and a friend in each one that I could spend "eternity" with loving and caring for one another. Instead in each I found that I was praying and living for eternity to "make everything better" because what I was living wasn't very sweet.
I was told to "have faith" and that I needed to keep my "eye on the prize" and "endure to the end" and I would be blessed. Well, I came to a realization. I didn't want to be miserable in this life with the "promise" that everything would turn around and be better in the next. I didn't want to be the "good little suffering soldier" any longer. Also, I didn't really believe that someone could spend a lifetime being one way and then if I were faithful enough that person would "spontaneously change" and things would be blissful for all eternity.
Ironically, it was when I rejected marriage that I found the exact kind of relationship that I have always been looking for. If there is an eternity, I believe it will be a lot like what I create here and now.
It is so much nicer spending my time with my best friend instead of someone who I wished would be at least friendly to me.
Sleep...
I should be at least trying to get some sleep...
...although I haven't been getting very good sleep the past little while (I guess it has even been the past few months come to think of it). Of course tonight there are things to do.
...although I haven't been getting very good sleep the past little while (I guess it has even been the past few months come to think of it). Of course tonight there are things to do.
Roadents - Our new funny show!!
Ok, so we came across this show surfing on Crackle waiting for Season 3 of Mr. Deity to start showing up.
Roadents and "The Beef Barn"
This is just the way life is sometimes dealing with some people....
..."If I could just get a fish taco."
Roadents and "The Beef Barn"
This is just the way life is sometimes dealing with some people....
..."If I could just get a fish taco."
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